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You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

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an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

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It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

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I will always reblog this. Always.

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So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone.

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Oh my lord, everything in this.

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"I think Bigfoot is blurry, that’s the problem. It’s not the photographers’ fault. Bigfoot is blurry and that’s extra scary to me. There’s a large, out-of-focus monster roaming the countryside."
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yoga-and-philosophia:

10 Yoga Poses that will Compliment any Runner

If you run, you MUST compliment your running with stretching before and after so your muscles don’t tighten up. 

Here, I’ve put together some easy poses anyone can do after a run. Do them in order after your run. Go at your own pace, be kind to yourself and do what feels good. Don’t get discouraged if you’re not as flexible as you wish…you’ll get more flexible if you keep going. 

You’ll see progress quick if you stick to it. I promise!

1. Downward facing dog-

Stretches basically everything. Hips, hamstrings, shoulders, back, achilles, calves, etc. Also, it can be very cooling after running and a good moment to just relax and slow down.

2. Lizard Lunge-

A great opening in the hips and hamstrings which I always find needed after running. You can even take the hand closest to the instep of the foot and place it on your knee to gently push the knee out to the side. Do on both legs, naturally.

3. Horse Squat-

A good twist and hip opening. The help of gravity makes this stretch extra yummy! Push your knees apart with your hands and let it feel good!

4. Malasana Squat-

After horse squat, take your hips down towards the ground. This is AMAZING on the low back which can sometimes feel jarred after running. Plus another great opening in the hips.

5. Wide Legged Forward Fold-

I love this pose to stretch everything and to improve my posture by opening in the heart space. Make sure you lift at your inner arches here slightly to avoid dumping in your feet and hurting your knees. 

6. Tip Toe Pose-

I encourage all of my students and friends and family and anyone to do this. If you have never done this, it may feel pretty intense at first and you may not be able to sit in it for long. But do it everyday. Trust me, you will thank your healthy feet. Especially after having your feetsies in shoes all day, this is a must.

7. Top of the Foot Stretch-

To counter the last stretch, this one feels great and is crucial for balancing out your feet. It feels so good from the top of the shin down. Again, if you never stretch your feet, you may notice your arches are pretty tight. Either way, do it everyday.

8. Bhekasana/Frog Pose-

After working your quads on that run, this is the best thing you could do for them. It stretches the entire thigh. Don’t leave this one out. It’s way too good.

9. Pyramid Pose with elevated toes-

You could use the street curb for this one. Crazy good hamstring and achilles stretch. This wall was convenient for me to rest my forehead on.

10. IT Band Stretch-

Right after pyramid pose, take this twisty position to stretch out the IT band. You won’t regret it.

Do these stretches after runs and get back to me on how you feel in a few weeks. I can assure you it will improve your running, flexibility and power. If you have any questions, feel free to ask. 

Namaste!

Gotta remember this…

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"I looked at the trap Ray."
Ghostbusters - Egon Spengler.
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#ghostbusters 
braiker:

catdad:

lepreas:

mahramore:

shots fired

rockets launched

pew pew

homeboy can get super tedious, but this is on point. 

braiker:

catdad:

lepreas:

mahramore:

shots fired

rockets launched

pew pew

homeboy can get super tedious, but this is on point. 

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Bastille | Pompeii (acoustic and live in Paris)

If you think you don’t need this in your life right now, you’re wrong.

This is amazing!!

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waitforclarity:

iamablasphemousgirl:

manilovestarwars:

leiaj:

kinglnthenorth:

heresmyfuckingprivilege:

collowrath:

meeow-for-me:

I have chills after reading this post. I literally feel like im going to throw up.. I will always reboot this.

I present to you… women who are ACTUALLY oppressed.

This is who really needs feminism.

Amen

I’ll reblog this every time I see it because oppression is NOT being too fat for Forever 21, oppression is NOT benedict cumberbatch as khan, oppression is NOT someone on a website saying something you disagree with.

literally can’t so terrible

*shivers*

This produced only very violent feelings in me. Going postal seems a reasonable option.

Needs to be seen.

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How is it -15 today but supposed to be 36 tomorrow?

How is it -15 today but supposed to be 36 tomorrow?

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